M.T. Connolly ’84 is a leading national expert on elder justice who was awarded a MacArthur Fellowship for work that has shaped policy, research and practice for decades.

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Aging With Intention

The road to aging well starts long before you think you need a map.

BY JERI ZEDER

What began as a scam snowballed into fear, shame, isolation and a life-threatening medical crisis.

Despite some health issues and mild dementia, an older woman was living competently on her own after the death of her husband. She was well connected to her community, and her children checked in on her often. But one day, when the bathtub backed up, not wanting to bother her children, she picked a plumber from the phone book. The plumber’s initial estimate of $800 skyrocketed to $8,000 and was followed by aggressive demands for payment. The woman didn’t tell her children because she feared they would think she could no longer live alone. Terrified of running into the scammer, she ceased going out, skipped her doctor’s appointments, failed to refill her heart medications — and wound up needing emergency surgery.

Like so many of the stories in the humane and thoughtful book The Measure of Our Age: Navigating Care, Safety, Money and Meaning Later in Life, by M.T. Connolly ’84, this one illustrates why elder justice requires multidimensional, holistic solutions, both in our personal lives and on a societal level. “Aging doesn’t choose a lane. It veers all over,” Connolly says. “There are so many aspects of life that are critical to think about as we age.”

Connolly, a MacArthur Fellow, has devoted her career to elder justice, how our society does and doesn’t achieve it, and what needs to happen so that we can live with meaning and free of mistreatment as we age. “Elder justice is critical to the well-being not just of older people but also of those who care for and about them. That’s something our current systems are ill-prepared to advance,” says Connolly, the architect of the Elder Justice Act, the first comprehensive federal law to address the issue.

The nonprofit Population Reference Bureau projects that there will be 82 million Americans 65 and older by 2050, up from 58 million in 2022. An NIH-funded study concludes that Americans 55 and older have a 42 percent chance of developing dementia, with a likely 1 million new cases a year by 2060. And researchers have found that 1 in 10 Americans are victimized by elder abuse, neglect or exploitation. Yet, Connolly says, we don’t like to think about aging; we don’t have good systems or infrastructure to support us as we age; and fear, denial and ageism keep us from fully appreciating this time in our lives.

“As people live deeper into old age, many will require more than just occasional help with groceries,” Connolly says. “Often, they’ll need ICU-level care in the living room. That’s really tough to provide. A lot of people don’t have the resources, education or capacity to offer it, and sometimes there are relationship issues that make it inappropriate.”

According to AARP, the value of unpaid work done by an estimated 50 million family caregivers in 2021 was more than half a trillion dollars — work they did with not nearly enough support.

“We’ve done this amazing thing,” says Connolly, referring to the advances that let us live longer. “Now we have to figure out how to live well amidst the fruits of this astonishing feat of longevity.”

Naomi Karp ’76

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There are some pretty bad stories about people who were really messing up and losing a lot of money — in
some cases, their retirement nest egg — and the people around them, even their spouses, didn’t realize it.

— Naomi Karp ’76

Blueprint Matters

At the same time that the elder justice system leaves a lot to be desired, we do have a certain amount of power to anticipate and plan for our own needs and those of the elders we care for. One way to do so is to think in terms of capacities: the capacity to manage finances; to make healthcare decisions; to food shop, cook and clean; to drive; to tend to our personal hygiene; and so on. Breaking out which capacities will diminish over time and which may be lost in an instant can help us anticipate what to plan for. Internet searches on topics like elder justice, caregiver training, aging in place and more can yield good resources to get started — with the caveat that all sources should be vetted for trustworthiness. And we can make sure that the lawyers we hire to draft powers of attorney and advance directives accurately express our personal wishes; help us thoroughly understand what we are signing, both the potential upsides and downsides; and discuss with us how to inform others of our plans.

Naomi Karp ’76, a policy analyst and researcher in the field of elder law whose clients have included the federal Consumer Financial Protection Bureau and AARP, focuses on the capacity to manage finances. “Studies have shown that financial capacity is one of the first, if not the very first, types of capacity to decline when someone is moving into mild cognitive impairment,” says Karp. Naming a “trusted contact” to call in case of suspicious activity and allowing banks, brokers and financial institutions to put temporary holds on accounts when they suspect fraud are critical and reduce the risk of personal bankruptcy. “There are some pretty bad stories about people who were really messing up and losing a lot of money — in some cases, their retirement nest egg — and the people around them, even their spouses, didn’t realize it,” she says.

Karp is the co-creator of the Thinking Ahead Roadmap, a practical guide for seniors that helps them designate a trusted financial advocate to help manage bill paying, government benefits, taxes, insurance and nest eggs. The idea is for older people to decide in advance who will be in charge of their money, rather than leave that decision to courts or others not of their choosing. “Financial advocates — who are typically agents under a power of attorney — can handle your money matters, like paying your bills, repaying money you owe, applying for government benefits, managing property, paying taxes, filing insurance claims and keeping an eye on your retirement savings,” says Karp, who notes that planning guides can be downloaded from the Thinking Ahead Roadmap website.

The financial advocate model has a corollary in a solution used by Page Ulrey ’93, senior deputy prosecuting attorney at the King County Prosecuting Attorney’s Office in Washington State. Under a grant from King County, her office deploys a multidisciplinary team of prosecutors, case managers, adult protective services investigators, police, geriatricians, capacity evaluators and other professionals to assist elder victims of crime and to coordinate investigations. The team frequently uses the services of a daily money manager, who, as part of the team, works with older adults who are victims of financial exploitation to assist them in recovering by managing their finances and protecting them from future victimization.

As a prosecutor, Ulrey has come to appreciate the importance of primary care providers and doctors as a first line of defense. “Doctors are often in a unique position to see signs and symptoms of abuse, neglect and even financial exploitation,” Ulrey says. A doctor may be the one person an isolated elder visits and trusts enough to disclose troubling circumstances to. In most states, doctors are legally obligated to report signs of abuse of elders or vulnerable adults to adult protective services, increasing the chances that the system will intervene — though that, too, can be complicated. Ulrey also recommends that doctors do better screening for dementia in order to catch it early, enabling patients and their families to plan further in advance. Recent research shows that people lose on average half of their net worth in the eight years leading up to a dementia diagnosis.

Page Ulrey ’93

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Doctors are often in a unique position to see signs and symptoms of abuse, neglect and even financial exploitation.

— Page Ulrey ’93

Mind the Future

When a crisis hits, far too many aging adults and their caregivers are left to flounder. Some of them are clients of Deborah Filler ’84, a senior staff attorney at Greater Boston Legal Services. “We’ve had cases where the reason for a threatened eviction is housekeeping problems: the elder doesn’t have the capacity to keep their apartment in acceptable condition without needed services,” she says. “There are cases where people’s lack of personal hygiene creates either odor or incontinence problems that not only cause problems inside their own apartments but also affect neighbors, and that can lead to eviction notices. These issues also require necessary home-based services.”

Isolation, Connolly says, is the enemy. “We know that if you get isolated, you’re at a much higher risk for very bad things happening,” she says.

To answer the need for home-based services, there are programs such as MassHealth’s Personal Care Attendant Program, which helps qualifying individuals by providing funds to hire personal care attendants, and the Program of All-Inclusive Care for the Elderly (PACE), which combines Medicare and Medicaid benefits, providing comprehensive care and services to eligible seniors who need nursing home–level care but want to stay in their homes and communities. But with more than 17 million Americans over 65 living at or below 200 percent of the federal poverty level — that is, $31,300 per year for a single-person household in 2025 — according to the National Council on Aging, the strains on programs like these and others are tremendous and the resources inadequate.

Even for those with the ability and finances to seek care privately, the numbers don’t add up. Geriatric care is shown to improve health and extend independence, but although the US is expected to need 30,000 geriatricians by 2030, there were only 7,400 in 2022. According to Connolly, adequate staffing leads to better elder care and outcomes in facilities — but many facilities are understaffed, in part because of a severe shortage in the elder care workforce.

Connolly says the reactive model isn’t working. Instead, we must anticipate possibilities through upstream prevention, including using more evidence-based solutions and holistic, multidisciplinary approaches. She is part of the RISE Collaborative, which builds and tests new approaches to helping people take on the challenges of aging in more effective ways. Through the US Department of Justice and Department of Health and Human Services, she co-authored the Elder Justice Roadmap — a national strategic plan offering guidance for policymakers, researchers, nonprofits and practitioners to set priorities and take action in the areas of direct services, education, policy and research.

As we contemplate the needs of the aging, Connolly emphasizes that elders also deserve lives filled with joy, meaning, connection, fun, creativity and curiosity. Data shows that embracing the good can help us ward off some of aging’s perils, and doing so is in everyone’s reach. “There are no silver bullets, but a fuller contemplation of what it means to live long lives can help us move the needle — away from the negative and toward the positive aspects of aging. Paying more attention to where we want to end up, and helping others do the same, is the first step,” she says.

“Everywhere, everyone is aging,” says Connolly. “Everywhere, someone loves someone who is growing old. Everywhere, decent people do their best, with too little help, wonder how to do right, wonder if someone will do right by them, wonder how not to be broken by it all …. If we bring the same ingenuity, will and hope we’ve invested in lengthening life to improving it, much is possible: common consolations; a deeper, more lasting justice.”

Four Ways to Improve the Odds

According to M.T. Connolly’s The Measure of Our Age, attention to the following four aspects of our lives can improve the odds of a better old age for ourselves and those we care for and about.

Care

Most of us will either need care or provide it (or both), but many of us are unprepared, and social support is not always adequate to meet our needs.

  • Explore the options. Will you live at home or in a group setting? What are your options for receiving care in either setting — and their costs? Who are potential caregivers? What types of support and services are available? Think about this before a crisis hits. Consider creating communities with friends or like-minded people.
  • Create a care plan. Communicate your wishes to family and trusted friends. Document your preferences. Consider long-term care insurance (be aware that Medicare does not cover long-term care).
  • Advocate for policy change. Support local and national initiatives to improve support for both paid and unpaid caregivers and to ensure availability of affordable quality care options

Money

Aging is expensive. Scams are everywhere. Consider how to make your money last and how to avoid family conflict about your plans (or your lack of them).

  • Avoid scams. Designate a trusted contact on your accounts; activate systems to alert you to potential fraud; educate yourself. Be aware that our “financial capacity” can change as we age.
  • Plan financially. What would you like to do with the money you have? What kind of care do you want if and when needed? A trusted financial advocate can help.
  • Communicate. Have discussions to manage family dynamics around inheritance and the cost of care to prevent these from becoming sources of conflict.

Balancing Autonomy and Safety

Aging can raise complex questions about decision-making and risk management (driving, falls, living alone, spending money). How much risk is too much? Are other people also put at risk? Who should decide?

  • Decision-making. Discuss who you want support from in making important decisions (if you need help) and what circumstances may require intervention. If you have strong preferences, communicate them in advance.
  • Don’t wait for a crisis. Name in advance a trusted power of attorney (POA) with the legal authority to make health and/or financial decisions if necessary (to avoid guardianship).

Norms and Meaning

Be aware that many norms and misconceptions about aging in the US can undermine well-being and distract us from what gives us meaning.

  • Stay connected and avoid isolation. Tend to the relationships that matter most to you. Join groups and engage with people of all ages.
  • Pursue purpose. Engage in pursuits that interest you: volunteer, work, mentor, travel, advocate, use your expertise, learn something new.
  • Appreciate time. Try to quiet the the negative noise about aging (fear, shame, denial, ageism) and appreciate the gift of long life.
  • Focus on what matters most. Allocate your time to people and projects that matter to you.
  • Cultivate awe. Experience the flow of the universe in a sunset or a starry night, in meditation or art. Embrace spirituality as you see fit.

About the Author

Jeri Zeder is a contributing writer.

Categories: Features, Summer 2025

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